I have had the pleasure of working with Mums and babies for the past fourteen years. What can I say……? I absolutely love what I do! I get a huge amount of satisfaction from supporting Mums to confidently care and feed their little ones. After that comes helping them with all-important sleep. I have spent what feels like my whole life, studying and gaining experience for my dream job!
Is it just me? Or these days do we seem to be spending the majority of our time and energy furthering our careers and leaving having our babies later and later. That’s exactly what I have done – I definitely spent more time focusing on my work life and what qualifications I could study to make sure I was the best I could possibly be. So much so it’s taken me until now, aged 42, to find the right guy. The guy I want to have a baby with.
So it seems that most of us girls set our sights on working our way up the career ladder, and then on our families later…. This often, as I’m sure you know only too well, means making huge sacrifices, moving away from our hometowns and our families. I don’t think that I am alone in longing for those long Sunday lunches with the whole family around a roast and roaring fire but, so often these days, that is but a distant memory. Our hectic lives mean that we no longer have that most comforting of support networks, our extended family, around us.
So we get there, we finally achieve our personal and career goals and then we start a completely different journey…often the most amazing, rewarding and challenging of all, the journey of Motherhood. And what a journey it is – such a mix of emotions, excitement, joy, apprehension and fear, you name it and you’re sure to feel it! The thing is, we often felt super confident in the career we took so long to master and now we are about to enter into unchartered territory.
In our professional lives, faced with a similar situation we would seek appropriate support, guidance or mentorship to help us learn and master our new skills. However, somehow becoming a Mother seems to make us feel like there’s pressure to instinctively master it. If we want to succeed quickly, we wouldn’t dream of jumping in a car and trying to drive it on our own without lessons first. We become tech savvy because someone teaches us all the helpful shortcuts and tricks. We think we should be good mothers based purely on instinct alone and then beat ourselves up when we struggle. Like a career, motherhood is a journey of learning, knowledge and application.
Motherhood is undoubtedly a challenging transition; overnight you go from being an individual, to an individual with a tiny little baby that now relies on you 24 hours a day. Sleep deprivation, and let’s be honest, the fact that you don’t even recognise your own body, would be challenging at the best of times. Add into that a partner, other children and family, is it any wonder that amidst all this and the hormonal haze we feel, we are on an emotional roller coaster ride from the very beginning.
I love being able to support Mums through this roller coaster ride of emotions. Offering evidence-based information and practical support, with a hint of a Welsh accent and a dash of humor and humility, together we keep the informed decision making process positively uplifting and empowering. Together, we work out what suits individual family’s needs.
I love this quote by Oprah Winfrey and wanted to share it with you; for me it describes exactly how I feel about my work:
“I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint – and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.”
I hope that you will join me again soon, as I share with you more about my journey, and my tips and techniques that have worked so well for my Mothers.